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Showing posts with label Tragedy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Tragedy. Show all posts

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Corrective Rape so that women can like men?



Via Bossip


It was supposed to be an ordinary night out with friends for 20-year-old Zukiswa Gaca but it ended with her lying on a railway track attempting to take her own life.
Gaca was at a bar, drinking with friends in Khayelitsha township, less than 40 kilometers outside Cape Town, South Africa, when a man tried to ask her out.
“I told the guy that no I’m a lesbian so I don’t date guys and then he said to me, ‘no I understand. I’ve got friends that are lesbians, that’s cool, I don’t have a problem with that.’”
Gaca says he was nice and she trusted him, and they left the bar to go to the home of one of his friends, and that is where his friendly exterior turned nasty.
“He said to me, ‘you know what? I hate lesbians and I’m about to show you that you are not a man, as you are treating yourself like a man,’” she told CNN
“I tried to explain ‘I’m not a man. I never said I’m a man, I’m just a lesbian’. And he said, ‘I will show you that I am a man and I have more power than you.’”
Then he raped her, she says, as his friend watched.
Gaca said: “[Afterwards] I went to the railway train road, because I was suicidal at the time. I was lying on the tracks. I think the train was 100 meters away from where I was. Then some other guy came and grabbed me. The train passed. He called the police.”
It is called “corrective rape” – where men force themselves on lesbians, believing it will change their sexual orientation.
The extent of the problem is hard to know as South African police do not compile corrective rape statistics separately from other rape cases.
But human rights groups in the country — where gay rights are constitutionally protected — are outraged.
Cherith Sanger, of the Women’s Legal Centre in Cape Town, which provides legal support for rape victims who cannot afford good lawyers, said: “We believe that corrective rape warrants greater recognition on the basis that there are multiple grounds of discrimination.
“It’s not just about a woman being raped in terms of violence against women, which is bad enough, but it’s also got to do with sexual orientation so it’s another ground or level of unfair discrimination leveled against lesbians.”
It was not the first time Gaca had been raped. She says she ran away from her home village, in the rural Eastern Cape, after the first rape when she was 15 years old and too afraid to press charges.
She says running was easier than dealing with a community that didn’t accept lesbians.
She moved to Khayelitsha Township, a sprawling shanty town near Cape Town, Africa’s “gay capital” where she hoped to find tolerance.
Instead, she was confronted by more hate. “Being a lesbian in Khayelitsha is like you are being treated like an animal, like some kind of an alien or something,” she said.
While there are no official statistics on corrective rape, there have been enough publicly reported incidents to spark widespread alarm.
This time Gaca is fighting back.
New York-based Human Rights Watch recently conducted interviews in six of South Africa’s nine provinces and concluded: “Social attitudes towards homosexual, bisexual, and transgender people in South Africa have possibly hardened over the last two decades. The abuse they face on an everyday basis may be verbal, physical, or sexual — and may even result in murder.”
The group added: “This is a far cry from the promise of equality and non-discrimination on the basis of ‘sexual orientation’ contained in the country’s constitution.”
Most known victims, like Gaca, are poor and black and so are the perpetrators, prompting many to ask how a people who fought against discrimination during apartheid can today treat some of its most vulnerable in such a violent manner.
Siphokazi Mthathi, South African director at Human Rights Watch, said: “We’ve failed to make it understood that there is a price for rape. Sexism is still deeply embedded here. There is still a strong sense among men that they have power over women, women’s bodies and there’s also a strong sense that there’s not going to be consequences because most often there are no consequences.”
Interpol estimates that half of South African women will be raped in their lifetime.

Friday, October 21, 2011

English 101

There are certain things that we learn in school that we all tend to forget.  I guess the Good Lord put me here to remind you of some things.  Keep in mind I'm not the best writer in the world but dammit, this shit is common sense.

-Please stop saying MINES.  It's mine.  If someone comes up to you and states, "That's mines." Back hand them.

-There is a difference between there, their and they're.  There is to be used when referring to a location.  "It's over there."OR Use there with a verb  Their is used as a reference for a possession.  "Their jackets are on the bed." They're is a contraction of they and are.  "They're going to the movies."

-Conversate is NOT a word.  When I type conversate, the little red line appears under it which indicates it is NOT a BLASTED word!  It's converse.  "We conversed for hours."

-Were is past tense and we're is a contraction of we and are.  They're not the same! (<-- peep the proper usage of they're).  "You were supposed to go to the store." "We're going to the store."  Get it?

-Women means more than one woman.  Woman is singular.  "What's up woman?" (If you say that, then you are referring to ONE woman).  "Where are the women?"  You are referring to 2 or more women.

- Lieing and dieing are not words.  The IE is to be replaced with a Y.  LYing/dYing.  "She's lying."  He's dying."

-Please don't use double negatives.  "I ain't got no money," means, "I have money."  "I ain't never been there," means, "I've been there."  "She' ain't never there," means, "She is there."

-Defiantly and definitely are not the same thing.  Definitely does Not have an "A" in it.

I hope this was helpful :)

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Are we going to be responsible for Amber Cole's death?




I learn about almost everything through Twitter.  From songs to tragedies, they all make their debut on Twitter.  Yesterday I saw people talking about Amber Cole.  I had no idea who she was and I didn't care to ask.  I assumed she was another hip hop artist that came out with some stupid commercial song that everyone would quote lines from.  When I saw people still asking, "who is Amber Cole?"  I decided to google her. 


Amber Cole is a 14 year old girl who was filmed giving head to some kid while in school.  So first of all, this video is circulating as if it isn't considered child pornography.  Don't forget that any footage of children under the age of 18 doing sexual acts ON CAMERA/VIDEO is illegal.  The fact that a whole day later I can still google and find a video of a 14 year old giving head on the net is ridiculous.  FYI- I was DYING to see those nakey pics of Miley Cyrus and I couldn't because she wasn't 18 at the time (Judge me, IDGAF).











                                                                                                                             
I guess my main concern is this, yes she is 14 years old.  Yes she was caught in an unfortunate situation.  Is the attention she is getting needed?  God forbid this young girl decided to take her life, would people begin to think that their response to her situation is cyber bullying?  When I was 14 I definitely was NOT fucking.  I had never saw a penis or a vagina at that age(in real life anyway).  Times are different and people are different.  I try my best not to judge anyone.  You learn from every experience given to you.  It's how you develop and grow.  We don't know Amber's personal upbringing.  We don't know if she was abused as a child or if she is just a 14 year old girl who likes to give head.  WE DON'T KNOW.  In a day and age where we have seen people take their lives for their sexuality being exposed, (remember the student who was secretly filmed having sex with another man by his roommate?), why do we think its okay to ridicule a 14 year old girl?   I've seen guys inappropriately go in on her.  Let's remember she's not Kat Stacks age, she's a minor.  My prayers go out to this young girl.  I hope that she learns from this and doesn't let it affect her to the point of no return.  This is a TEACHABLE moment. 
 

Saturday, October 15, 2011

2 Lesbians get beat to a bloody pulp by Mc Donalds employee

Everyone that lives in NYC knows the Mc Donalds on West 3rd and 6th avenue.  Its open 24 hours and its where most of the LGBTQ youth congregate after walking up and down Christopher Street.

A few nights ago, 2 lesbians walk into the Mc Donalds and get into an altercation with one of the employees.  Something as simple as the employee having to scan the $50 bill that was given to him resulted in these 2 women leaving with a skull fracture, broken arm and horrible cuts.  Here's how it went down. The young ladies placed their orders and handed the employee a $50 bill.  The employee took the bill but did not give the food to the ladies until he verified the authenticity of the bill.  Offended, the young ladies began to exchange words with the employee.  One of the ladies slapped the employee.  He pushed the young lady and she then jumped over the counter.  The employee then got a metal crane and beat both women REPEATEDLY.  CHECK THE VIDEO BELOW



In no way shape or form do I agree with the employees behavior or the ladies behavior.  It is all just an unfortunate situation.  My question is, was it that serious?  The employee was simply trying to do his job by checking the $50 bill and for some reason, these young women found it offensive.  I read comments about this on Facebook and people were saying that this is a typical case of lesbians trying to act like men.  Do I agree?  Not really.  I don't think all that aggression was warranted.  What were these young women trying to prove by shoving a man all because he had to verify currency? 

You NEVER know who it is that you're fucking with.  What these 2 young ladies did NOT know is that the man they decided to attack had recently just come home from serving over a decade in prison for murder.   At the age of 19 he was convicted for shooting a classmate and an innocent bystander (an 8 year old child).  You take a man who is a convicted killer, served his time and is not trying to make an honest living and put him up against 2 young women who attack him for doing what he is paid to do.  I'm not defending his actions, I just think people need to pick their battles wisely. 


Monday, October 3, 2011

So we all fall victim to watching the fuckery that is reality TV.  We have watched everyday people become celebrities.  We follow the girlfriends and wives of sports stars, we follow misguided women who think its appealing to be called a, "bad girl."  We follow regular everyday people as they make a mockery of themselves on television for over night fame.  From Jersey Shore to Basketball Wives, to The Bad Girls Club, I wonder what enjoyment we as a people get from making a fool of themselves.  It's definitely entertainment for the viewers.  I know I watch every week and look forward to seeing each new episode as the weeks go by.  You would think that as you get older, your level of maturity and responsibility grows.  Instead we watch 30-40 somethings with children that observe their every move fight on television.  All this to say, THANK YOU women of America for making a mockery of yourselves for the sake of reality TV.  For your viewing pleasure... Bad Girls Club member, Judi, showing her badness on an airplane. 


Wednesday, September 21, 2011

An eye for an eye



One man supposedly kills another man so in return, the Supreme Court and the state of Georgia decide to take a potentially innocent man's life.  We all have our own views on this.  WE do not know if he is innocent or not, but do we live by the "An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth" rule? Is this what we teach our children?

RIP to Troy Davis executed at 11:08PM on September 21, 2011

The Fate of Troy Davis...


We live in a world where a woman can murder her child and walk free after serving approximately 13 days in jail.  Celebrities can drink and drive, risk lives only to serve 16 hours in jail.  Sports figures can have dog fights and serve more time in jail that people with DWI's.  And now more recently, a man who has served 20 years in prison for a crime that can not be proven that he committed(Davis is accused of shooting a police officer in Burger King back in 1989), will be sentenced to death today. 

The Troy Davis story is not one that has been widely acknowledged in the media.  Until recently, the case has not been too noticeable.  What are your thoughts on this case?  With so many developing issues in the case (from eye witnesses saying that they saw Davis shoot the officer, to witnesses retracting their statements to say that they were pressured by police to say that they saw Davis shoot the officer), should this man be sentenced to death today?  Protest are going on, petitions are being signed, prison guards are being asked to call in sick, the public is begging for Davis to be able to take a polygraph test, the public is even asking for the White House to intervene.  Should we have been advocating on his behalf a bit earlier?  What does this say about our judicial system?  What will happen if at 7 pm tonight, Troy Davis is given the lethal injection as scheduled?  He has already escaped the death penalty 3 times prior.  What are your thoughts?

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Transwoman beaten to seizures for using women's bathroom

Via CBS



It was a scandalous hate crime caught on camera that grabbed national headlines. Now one of the two young women accused of beating a transgender woman at a McDonalds learns her punishment. Convicted of a hate crime and first degree assault. Five years in prison.

Over and over again, two teenage girls attack and beat Chrissy Polis inside a Baltimore County McDonalds until she goes into a seizure — all while a laughing McDonald’s employee records the vicious attack on his cell phone.

The Youtube video sparked community outrage and landed 19-year-old Teonna Brown and her 14-year-old accomplice in jail. Brown now sentenced to five years in prison.

Polis, who is transgender, chose not to appear in court for the sentencing. But her hero Vicki Thoms was. “I just wanted to make sure that justice was served,” Thoms said. She can be seen in the video trying to stop the attack on Polis. She ending up punched in the eye herself.

“I thought she was going to die,” Thoms said. In court, Brown tearfully offered remorse saying “I’m sorry. My mother did not raise me like this. I would really like to apologize to the victim, Miss Chrissy Polis.”

But that apology not accepted according to a letter Polis wrote to the judge. “I felt like I was going to die that day,” the letter reads. “I continue to suffer seizures, bouts of crying, mental anguish and anxiety. I fear being alone. I have flashbacks about the attacks. I do not forgive them for what they did to me. “

Prosecutors say hate was clearly the motivation for the attack. “I don’t really care who the victim is,” said Scott Shellenberger. “This wasn’t about a political statement. This was about prosecuting people for a heinous crime that they committed.” The criminal case is over, but the civil case is just beginning. Polis has filed suit against McDonald’s for failing to stop the beating and because it was its employee who video taped the incident while laughing about it.

So far a settlement has not been reached. The other suspect in the case already made an admission to the beating and remains locked up in juvenile detention.

Monday, September 12, 2011

Tragedy... Harlem Lesbian murdered due to mistaken identity

Via NY Daily News
A high school basketball star was shot dead inside a Manhattan housing project Sunday in a slaying her family believes was a tragic case of mistaken identity.

Tayshana (Chicken) Murphy, 18, one of the top-rated basketball players in the country, was killed in Harlem's Grant Houses around 4:10 a.m., police said.

She was trying to outrun a gunman in the fourth-floor hallway of her building, witnesses said.

"She was pleading for her life," said friend Teka Taylor, 22. "She was saying, 'No, please, I don't have nothing to do with it.'"

Murphy had just started her senior year at Murry Bergtraum High School for Business Careers. Several colleges were actively recruiting her.

"She said, 'Mom, I'm going to get you out of the projects,' " said Murphy's mother, Tephanie Holston, whose shirt was stained with blood after she tried to save her daughter before emergency workers arrived. "She loved basketball, she lived and breathed basketball," Holston said.

Witnesses believe Murphy, who was partying with friends from the project and was wearing a hooded sweatshirt, was mistaken for a boy from the group who had fought with young men from a nearby housing project.

She died at the scene after being chased into the building by her shooter.

Murphy's mother kissed the body bag as it was loaded into a medical examiner van.

"No, no, no. I can't believe this," Murphy's sister howled as she banged on the van with both her hands.

Murphy had a brush with violence last year, when she left Bishop Loughlin Memorial High School under threat of suspension after an altercation with a 15-year-old girl.

She transferred to St. Michael's Academy in Manhattan, then started at Murry Bergtraum last September after St. Michael's shut down.

Murphy was ecstatic to be returning to the court this fall after being sidelined last year with a knee injury. "She wanted in the worst way to play," said Ed Grezinsky, her coach at Bergtraum. "She definitely would have been the leader of the team."

She never lost sight of her dream of becoming a WNBA star. "That's my goal," she told the Daily News last year. "I want to be great."

Police are investigating the killing. No arrests have been made.

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