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"Ive been dating this girl for a few months.  Things are really good between us.  When we hang out, we have a good time.  I just feel that she is wishy washy.  She shows that she really likes me but then she pulls back and acts like she doesn't care or isn't interested.  What should I do?"

This sounds like a case of the, "I need to remind myself constantly that I'm single," syndrome.  Some women walk into dating with the mentality that they are here simply to date and that is it.  They don't realize that spending time with someone will spark feelings and emotions that they're not necessarily ready for.  When things begin to get too good and they realize they are too happy, they tend to pull back because it begins to feel too much like a relationship.  People who have to constantly say, "I'm single" do it to remind themselves and keep themselves from getting caught up.  Take a step back yourself and see what direction you're headed in.  After all, you are single so you shouldn't be expecting much from the other party.  Expectations is what kills dating.  You can mention to the person you're dating that you are not ready for more so she doesn't have to be scared to let go of her fears of getting caught up.  The only thing is, when you say that, you have to mean it.

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"How do you get a possible significant other to understand you are bisexual- not straight or gay?"

I think this is a very important question.  There is no other way to say it that to just put it out there.  The last thing you want to do is mislead anyone.  It is very important that when your dealing with sexuality, you remain open and honest.  Now if your putting it out there that you are bisexual to a potential partner and they aren't being receptive of it, then she probably is accepting of it, or chooses to ignore it.  The most important thing is that you remain open and honest about it.  Nothing worse than finding out about your sexuality in a deceptive manor.

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Ask MaRs..

I get a lot of questions from different blog readers so I decided to do an, "Ask MaRs" portion of the blog.  All submissions will remain anonymous.  Here is a question from a blog reader.

I am in a relationship with a person who possibly has a mental illness.  How do I deal with this?  Should I stay?

Hmmm... What kind of behavior does your partner exhibit for you to feel she has a mental illness?  Often times we deal with women who are just crazy.  I've had my share of them.  Is there something specific that she does that can be associated with a mental illness?  If her behavior can be diagnosed as a clinical psychological illness then I think it takes someone very strong to deal with her.  If you have been with her for a while and you are already in love with her, then it would be hard to just leave her.  If she is someone that you just began dating then I think it would be best to bow out gracefully.  Dealing with someone who has a mental illness can be very draining.  In the event that she is someone you want to support emotionally and continue to be with, sit down with her and explain to her that she should see get an evaluation.  Hell, get an evaluation with her to support her.  Based on the results of her evaluation, encourage her to seek treatment whether it be counseling or medication.

I hope this helps!

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